Wedding Plans

OK folks I need your help.  As some of you already know, Wal and I are getting married.  We’re thinking sometime in May, during half term so our friends can come to the wedding.  I would like a destination wedding which is the reason for a half term wedding date.  Somewhere in Northern Portugal, perhaps a winery?  Or maybe in Madeira although I watched 2 minutes of Kerry Katona on telly this evening and she was going on holiday to Madeira so she might have just ruined it for me.

So you’re wondering where/why I need help.  I am ashamed to say that I don’t know nuthin’ bout weddings.  I think Wal and I might just go to a registry office and do the legal deed then off somewhere for the party.  What do I bring?  Do I need wedding favors?  A cake? A dance? A DJ/Band? I just want a really chilled out weekend drinking some fab wine w/ friends and family in a super cool winery.  Basically not very ‘wedding’ like.  Anyone have any suggestions of places to go or wedding ideas?  Anything would be great.  I don’t really want to start buying wedding magazines as they’re geared for the more traditional bride and that is something I am not.  Wal and I have been together for a while, we have child together so all that wedding malarkey just seems a bit silly to me.

Is May too soon?  How far ahead to we have to plan these things?  Oh mah gawd I don’t have a clue… help!

Oh and a recent photo of Squidge…


  1. hazeljoy
    August 27, 2009 /

    registry office. party. best way.
    send out invites. have good food and good wine organised. and somewhere good for people to stay.
    you need nothing more x

  2. gertrudewinston
    August 28, 2009 /

    congratulations!! woo hoo!! how is ‘everyone’ taking it?? 🙂

  3. August 28, 2009 /

    Did you forget to feed Squidge so she had to eat a crayon?

  4. August 28, 2009 /

    Don’t ask me we ran away in secret!!!!!!!!! Can highly recommend that though!!

  5. Vic
    August 28, 2009 /

    Registry office here cos you never know how the legal side of things will work around British law and the like. Tell people, if you want them to be there, that they’re more than welcome to attend but the real party will be in whatever country you choose in the end.
    Look into things well now, find yourself somewhere gorgeous that’ll be good for the kids and adults alike and plan for the sort of party you’re both comfortable with. Go with what you want and not what everyone else wants and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
    Bring little with you – you’re not having a traditional wedding so there’s no need fr traditional things like favours (unless you really want to). Cake is a must, but no reason it has to be a wedding cake.

  6. August 28, 2009 /

    I have a book with the laws for each contry with regards to British can have it!!

  7. The Biff
    August 28, 2009 /

    Bugger Me!!! Roll on First Friday.

    Registry Office, nearby Park for the pictures, back to house/pub for a bite to eat and speeches with close friends/family and then a Church Hall with DJ and buffet at night for the rest of the world. Worked for us and we’re upto 17 (Oh my God, count ’em) tears, sorry, years in a few weeks.

  8. Jeanette
    August 28, 2009 /

    Can’t help you, but congrats 🙂 Hope you enjoy all the organising, I don’t think May is too soon

  9. August 28, 2009 /

    Was talking about weddings with TLP just the other evening and we thought we’d just go for simple register office do followed by ‘pie and peas’ type spread in a pub somewhere. Nowt fancy and not that we’re going to.
    Can only say go with what feels right for YOU. Cake is always good though.
    Do you want the stress of trying to get things organised in another country when you could do it here and then just head off for your own party/honeymoon? Glad I don’t have to organise anything like a wedding.

  10. mariel
    August 29, 2009 / …hope this link works…by far one of the most beautiful places i have been…not the best website but we have pictures i could send you and it is over looking an amazing vineyard….just an idea. : )

  11. Teddy
    August 31, 2009 /

    Many congrats. It is your wedding day, so you do whatever you want to. It can be as small, big, quirky or traditional as you want. As for timing, we arranged ours and got married in three weeks. We just told friends where we were getting married and where the party was afterwards. It was fab, low cost and I would not change anything about it if we were to do it again. Just write a list of what you want – and do not want – and take it from there. xx

  12. September 1, 2009 /

    Getting married abroad makes life simple in some ways, complicated in others. I’d be tempted to have some Google fun and find a few venues. They’ll probably have all the information you need on the legal side.
    We married in the UK. We got a ‘package’ from a lovely hotel. We got married (civil ceremony, our own vows and music) in the afternoon and had a meal, speeches etc. with 50 friends and family. We then had a disco in the evening for 100. It was brilliant, the hotel did a smashing job. I made my own invites and favours and my mother in law made the cake. Guests can stay in the hotel. Easy.
    There are no rules, it’s your wedding and you can do what you like! Good luck x

  13. September 9, 2009 /

    I’d tie the knot in the U.K. and then plan your dream party for your family and friends. Also, get yourself and Squidge fabulous outfits. At the end of the day, it’s all about the party and hanging out with the people you love, IMHO. Fun stuff!