the one where we regress

I’m at my wits end with Squidge.  She has started peeing her pants at school.  She had three accidents last week and again today.  She has been potty trained since she was 2 1/2 and does not have any accidents with me or during the weekend.  I’m trying to find out why she’s regressing.  Is it because she is having such a good time she doesn’t want to stop to go pee. Is it a physical thing? When I ask her why she doesn’t go sooner she tells me she doesn’t think she needs to go and then when she does it’s too late.

I’ve chatted briefly (rushed at the school gate) with her teacher and have asked that she remind Squidge to go throughout the day.  Each time I ask them to do this they tell me she is allowed to go anytime without asking.  This is fine but if my child is waiting until the last possible moment to go to the loo the fact that she can go anytime doesn’t really help- does it?  I’m going to give it another week and if we have any more accidents I’m going to have to ask for a meeting.  After all this is a girl that has been potty trained since December 2008.  I can count in one hand how many times she has peed her pants in one hand since Dec 2008.  Well that is prior to last week!!

So friends how do I handle this??  I’m desperate and am looking for advice.  I have tried ( to be honest I didn’t have to try to hard) being cross with her.  I have tried to reason with her. I have spent days and days talking to her about going to the loo as often as possible- even when she doesn’t think she needs to.  I have smiled and clapped and praised her when she’s come home without having an accident.  HELP!!!


  1. October 4, 2010 /

    Have you taken her to the GP’s to rule out a urine infection?

  2. Rachel
    October 4, 2010 /

    Right, first of all take a deep breath. Noah has also had 2 accidents at school since it started, and the teachers have assured me that lots of kids are having accidents because they are having soooo much fun that they don’t want to stop playing to go to the toilet. Don’t get upset with her, just let her get used to school over the next few weeks and it will stop. Its not her fault, but big school is soooo much fun!! I promise!

  3. October 4, 2010 /

    Oi, I don’t have any advice, but I can imagine how frustrating that must be

  4. October 5, 2010 /

    I’m also on the wait and see camp. Transitions can be so hard. My guess is….she’ll be right back on track soon.

  5. October 5, 2010 /

    I agree with the others that transition times can bring some traumas. I’m sure she is uncomfortable about it to so it is likely to pass. Although she is sad, that is a fab photo!

  6. October 5, 2010 /

    She isn’t doing it on purpose. Honest. She may be worried about asking to go (even though they are allowed to). She may not like the toilet at school. She may not like the loo roll. She may be struggling with her uniform. She may just be forgetting to go. Lots of kids do it at school. Be assured she won’t be doing it by the time she is 16. They are still babies in foundation bless them

  7. Mancais
    October 5, 2010 /

    Can’t help but I’m sure she’ll be fine.