Politely being told you’re a liar

Over the past few months Squidge has been rehearsing her little satin ballet clad feet off for a show her dance school was putting on.  Squidge has been attending this school since she was 3 1/2 and loves it.  She goes every Saturday morning and does ballet and tap.  I love it because I never did this sort of thing as a kid and I’m living vicariously through my daughter. What?

Week before last the secretary asked us if we planned on attending the show. We told her yes we were and that we had purchased tickets a few weeks ago. It was at this point that she informs us that they don’t have any record of us purchasing tickets. I checked my check book and gave her the number and the amount I wrote the check for. This wasn’t enough for her. Fair enough I told her I’d get something from the bank. Our bank can’t give us a copy of the check, we have to order that, but they could give us a print out with the amount, check number and confirmation that it had been cashed. I went to the secretary and showed her the paperwork. This is when she politely in not so many words told me I could maybe possibly be lying to her. I could have written that check out to B&Q for all she knew. Here is where I have an issue with her comment.

1. Odd that I would write a check for the same amount around the same time I would have needed to write her a check.

2. who the effin’ hell writes checks to B&Q? Does B&Q even accept checks any more?? Other than small indie businesses who takes checks?

3. What kind of people does she think we are? I have paid her on time EVERY term for the past 2 years. We have NEVER needed a second reminder.

Wal thinks I’m being too sensitive. That she’s just trying to balance her books. She doesn’t have a record of it and would like a copy of the check.  To this I say OK fair enough. You need a copy of the check for your records. What I find offensive is the suggestion that we are making it up. That we didn’t in fact write the check and the reason she needs a copy if because she never makes mistakes and if she doesn’t have a record that we paid it must be something we did.

 

This afternoon this arrived in the post.

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Made out to exactly who I said I’d made it out to, for the exact amount I said, for the correct number of tickets we purchased. On Saturday I really really appreciated her joke about our contraband tickets. Told in a loud voice in a public place. I especially loved all the curious looks everyone gave us.

So tell me am I being unreasonable for feeling like this? Is it my “american” coming out?

10 Comments

  1. Kelloggsville
    March 13, 2012 /

    No you are not being unreasonable. She needs to check,she needs to balance but she should have given you tickets with the agreement that if the bank copy didn’t prove payment you would pay again, you knew you’d paid so this wouldn’t be a problem. Anda public comment is just downright rude. In America I guess you would sue her, here we bury resentment and carry te indignity of injustice until hell freezes over with a few snide looks thrown in once in a while. You could try for an apology but it would probably be less hassle to search for a cure for cancer and remember to ask for a receipt next time to annoy her!

    • Lindy
      March 21, 2012 /

      LOL on the suing! I don’t do buried resentment very well! I’m letting Dad handle all interactions with her now as I don’t think I can leave it alone!

  2. March 13, 2012 /

    Hell no, I’d be furious! She’s the kind who believes that if something’s wrong, it’s never her fault. I think I’d be furious for days and possibly couldnt sleep! Hope you are feeling better now! x

    • Lindy
      March 21, 2012 /

      I am furious! It makes me cross just thinking about it.

  3. Kim
    March 13, 2012 /

    You’re totally being reasonable. This is the kind of crap that makes me furious. I’m glad you were able to prove yourself right. I hope when she mentioned your contraband tickets that you made a crack, in an equally loud voice, about her shoddy bookkeeping skills.

    I would seriously fume about this for awhile, in fact, I’m fuming FOR you right now.

    • Lindy
      March 21, 2012 /

      Thanks for fuming for me! We can send her evil thoughts and hope she breaks her bookkeeping calculator!

  4. Vic
    March 13, 2012 /

    Holy crap! I am as british as they come and I would have been furious. She should have looked around properly. None of this is your fault, and the fact that you had to do all the digging around is appalling.

    A BIG apology from her would not go amiss!! I think you are being very calm. I’d have been furious.

    • Lindy
      March 21, 2012 /

      I think she should have been the one that did the looking. She should have checked her deposit amount against the checks she had listed. Instead of making us jump through hoops.

  5. maria
    March 21, 2012 /

    No girly!! I think she owes you an apology.. I get tHAt attitude here as well.. If I say sometHing IS wrong at C’s school and I try to explain myself..I get a brush off of “I don’t know what you are talking about…” which I want to reply “IT doesn’t mean it isn’t happening because YOU are effibg clueless!!”” uuuggghh!! these secretaries ….job’s worth

    • Lindy
      March 21, 2012 /

      I think pigs will fly out of my ass before I get an apology. All we got from her was an “oh I guess they weren’t contraband tickets after all!” Grrrrrr!