So did you hear? Wal and I are getting hitched! Finally after all this time we’ve decided to do the deed. I’m excited about it and sometimes can’t believe we had actually agreed to do it. I told Wal I would chat w/ the vicar next time we went to church. A few weeks ago we got dressed at went to our usual 9:30 service- we are what I like to call irregular regulars. We don’t go every Sunday but go enough that we’re not newbies. After the service I chatted w/ the vicar and he asked us a bunch of questions including have you been married before… yes, yes I have. *silence* I was then asked if it was a case of adultery or abandonment. Yes, yes it was. Good a smile on his face- all I’d need to do was prove that- was it on the divorce decree? No, I wanted a no hassle one so we waited the 12 month separation period and had a non contested divorce. Well come to find out the Church of England has a pretty dim view on divorce (HA!) I can only get married in the church if I can prove I’d been abandoned or he’d been an adulterer- could I contact him and would he agree to admit that. Urm…. Uh…. HELL THE FUCK NO! Why! Why?!?! Why would I want to contact me ex?!?!?!? Soooo a church founded because a king wanted to divorce his wife is now not allowing me to get married because I’ve been divorced. I’m livid! I mean really? REALLY Church of England?!?!!! How amazingly hypocritical of you! So in the end we’re getting MARRIED at the registrars office and having a blessing at the church. To be honest I’d be happy to just have the registry thing and say to hell w/ the church. What do you guys think? Should I keep paying for having a failed marriage? Why is it in 2013 I’m still made to feel like there is something wrong with me because for whatever reason my marriage ended in divorce. It’s made me feel pretty shitty at a time when I should be excited.